2013: be the person you want to be

While thinking about my goals for 2013, this DVF motto came to mind: Be the woman you want to be. For all the women and men who read this blog, I want 2013 to be the year you become the person you want to be. This could really be anything that is important to you, but maybe you haven’t taken the time to focus on it yet. Perhaps you want to revamp your wardrobe to be a more stylish person, work daily throughout the year to write a book, master the art of digital photography, or perfect one recipe per month.

The person I want to be in 2013 is an organized me. A huge source of stress in my life stems directly from a lack of organization and the habit of procrastination. I always seem to pull everything together at the last minute and appear somewhat organized, but the chaos that leads up to the finish line is never my best moment. I’m convinced that these habits can be turned around with the right amount of planning ahead and reframing of my day.

My motivation and payoff for making these changes is to free up more time to enjoy life. I’ve been known to spend an hour or more simply looking for something that is lost in my house. That seems insane to me, but it’s true. There are so many more fabulous things to do with time than looking for things.

In 2013, I want to be the person who plans ahead, has birthday cards in the mail early, has gifts wrapped and packed up to go well before the day of a brunch or event, has healthy lunches packed for the week, has outfits planned ahead for work, gym, and nights out, has a weekly grocery store visit planned for the weekend, and has a schedule for the week fleshed out. I would love to experience the feeling of being ready to go out to dinner or brunch with time to relax well before the moment I have to run out the door.

This all requires a serious amount of planning ahead, which is an entirely new thing for me. I’ve made some great improvements with this in 2012, but I still have a lot of work to do. There is a great article about goals and resolutions and how to keep them here and you should check it out. I’m starting with item #1 and thinking small. This week, I’ve been focusing on making my weekday mornings run more smoothly and working on being on time. I’ve been planning outfits, packing lunches and leaving my house {relatively} on time. In a week or two, I’ll add on some more small changes.

This time next year, I will be proud to say I am an unbelievably organized person. I promise you that.

Who do you want to be in 2013 and how will you get there? What is your plan?

Have a fabulous 2013!

p.s., this DVF flashmob video is guaranteed to put a smile on your face today. ♥channing

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  1. Great post, Chan! You and I are on the same wavelength. I don’t usually do New Year’s resolutions, because I usually break them easily, or don’t have enough enthusiasm for them to begin with. But this year, I decided to make one. It is simply:

    “Be Awesome.”

    That’s it. I’m not defining it for myself any more than that. This way it can be molded and shaped as I need it to, and there’s nothing specific to break! But just having this one simple directive is already inspiring me and making me feel good. For instance, I wore a tie to work today, something I’ve NEVER done even once in my career. (Interviews don’t count!) And I must say, I am rocking it. ;)

    Another thing that I’m doing to work on the goal of Being Awesome, is using an iPhone app called “Lift”. I just discovered it, and highly recommend it to anyone who wants to create better habits in their lives, which is pretty much everyone! It basically let’s you choose from any number of good habits, such as “Weigh Myself” or “Walk the Dog” or even “Floss” (that’s a surprisingly popular one!) and then you “check-in” when you completed the task. Other users can give you a thumbs up, and you can do the same for them. Some of the habits I’ve added to my list are:

    No Drinking – Not a permanent change, but after the holidays, my liver could use a break!
    Take the Stairs – I work on the 9th floor of a big office building, so I’m quite winded by the time I reach my floor!
    Weigh Myself – Something I stopped doing for 6 months or so, and the effects are now obvious! I don’t have a specific diet plan in mind, but hopefully just weighing-in daily will remind me to make healthier choices.
    Read 30-60 minutes a day – I’ve gotten into a bad habit of watching TV every night, and this should help balance that.
    I’m sure I’ll add more items in the coming weeks.

    So, with all that being said, here’s to an AWESOME year!

  2. Good to you! I want to be less of a stress maniac. I am going to try to learn the art of meditating. I am going to close everything off for the kids for 10 min a day so we can just be. I feel that sometimes I pass on my negative stressful energy to my kids. Especially in the afternoon when we are doing homework running to afternoon activities trying to get dinner ready. Somewhere in there I am going to find 10 min so we can just be still!

    1. Oooh, that’s a good one. We’ve got two young kids (boys, aged 3 and 5), and I’m SURE our energy rubs off onto them. Life with kids is definitely hectic, but I’ve recently found that they are open to meditation. They share a bedroom, and don’t always go right to sleep. Sometimes they’re up for HOURS just talking, or singing, or whining, or whatever. But recently, I’ve started doing guided meditations with them as they lay in their beds just after I turn out the light. I tell them to take a DEEEEEP breath, let it out slowly, then listen as I describe some scene. Maybe it’s sitting in a rowboat on a calm lake on an early, misty summer morning. Or maybe it’s walking outside after a freshly fallen snow, when there’s a crisp freshness in the air and no one has made any footprints in it yet. It usually works wonders, and they fall right to sleep afterwards! I need to remind myself to do that every night! (Maybe I’ll add that to my Lift app!)

    2. I love this too! The idea of 10 minutes of silence and nothingness sounds like a good idea for everyone. I can’t think of anytime that I have this, other than when I am sleeping. Good one!!

  3. To keep it simple (since there are many things we’d all love to do better or be good at)- my two things are ….’organization and procrastination’ (Yes, the two you mentioned Channing). I could talk about reducing ‘stress and anxiety’ but I feel I do plenty of ‘physical stuff’ for that. My real source of stress is not finding things around the house, my stack of papers to be filed, poor organization of the very few closets we have in this small space. Procrastination is truly the story of my life and what causes 50% of my daily stress. No amount of gym time/ yoga/ meditation helps me address ‘organization and procrastination’. I have several bags in a corner in my living area and I just look at them and get overwhelmed so they stay there. I need to find a place for the things inside the bag even if it means redoing each closet. I FINALLY ordered a silly COFFEE TABLE ON OVERSTOCK YESTERDAY that I’ve been meaning to do since JANUARY 2012. Yes, one year of ‘saving options’ and never pressing ‘the purchase button’. It’s RIDICULOUS. This is what I want to change.

  4. p.s. Last night I went to ‘the mall’ which I hate to do ….to return 4 things I didnt want to keep. I then went to bed/bath/beyond to buy 3 things I needed in my bathroom. It’s the last thing I would have done ‘last night’ but forced myself to do so based on the above ramble. So your blog today made me smile because that’s what I was up to! Normally one month would pass by for ‘returns’.

    1. Congrats on this! This is a good start. I also find that I create stress in my own mind agonizing about doing things, like packing a box up for a return. Just doing it and getting it checked off a list has been helpful in the first week of my new organization focus! Good luck with finding a place for everything and getting organized!!

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